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It takes time, yes. Search people local and reach out. Chat is a potpourri of people form around the world, - most nowhere near you.

But mostly - you will sift through many before oyu get a match.

And it seems that 75% of people here talk a lot but act little.

Exactly! Right on the money!

Make your profile more engaging. Be patient too, there are dry spells but then I’ve had weeks when I’ve had 5-6 matches and been exhausted

I have only recently joined too. I have around 50 off people in my messages and most say would like to meet sometime, some we keep up contact, others are quiet. I get bust, tired etc and so do they. It is finding the right time.

Recently I arranged 5 meets in my enthsiasm and only 2 happened with only on being what I would call a successful physical meet where we will meet again as we are a good match. I have one tomorrow where we have booked a ring so cancelling means loss of deposit. My opponent, who arranged the rong, keeps in regular contact with me, as obviously, he is comcerned that I may back out. Like him, I like to honour my agreements and we will meet. That is not always the case.

I am discovering it is much like many other social websites as one other reply said a group of people all with their ideas of what they want and there will be successes and disapointments along the way. Up in Scotland you have a fair amount of people belonging and it is a matter of building relationships, meeting, and when successful, meeting again.

I am not taking it all too seriously as I enjoy my life as it is, so am just looking for a honny to keep fit, social and occasionally if there is chemistry maybe a happy ending but this is not my primary goal. In the main keep it light and fun and you will enjoy the site. Two of my best chats are in Oz and Canada. We regularly update eachother and chat about things and it is bonding. Good luck mate.

So... Here's my situation... I've been on this site a total of 3 or 4 different times, each time lasting 1 - 2 years. I've reached out to countless numbers of guys, many of which are younger than me, and many are about my age. In all of the time I've been on here, I've managed to have 2 matches total, both with the same guy (different times). Each time I've reached out to someone, very very rarely does it end up in some sort of a connection. I've encountered a number of guys who are flaky. Some guys will only communicate with you once, then you will never hear from them again. Some guys will read your response to their profile and totally ignore you. Other guys never even read their email. Three months after sending someone a response to their profile, it sometimes shows as being "unread".

Most of the guys who reach out to me are older and way, way, way heavier than what I'm looking for in a competitor. Most of the guys I'm interested in live a long long ways away and would be unrealistic to meet with them.

I do understand your frustration, but believe me, I've experienced this kind of thing many times over. I think the key to finding a number of guys to connect with is either live in a metropolis (very large city) or somewhere that gets travelled to often by many people.

Wishing the best to you in finding someone to wrestle with. Hopefully, you will start coming across guys to connect with.

Don't worry:
I live in Berlin and made not the best expierences to find guys in a Metropolis of 4 million!
There are many guys who would like, but...and if....but not...You know what I mean.
In 4.6 years I have met about 5 or six serious guys for fighting. So, be prepared to fish a lot of time!!

It's bloody hard getting a match. I think people are mainly up for Brit pro and roleplay. The group meets advertised in the match up section could help