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Wise words echoing what I said a couple of years ago in a blog I've since deleted. I think most people are realistic about their opportunities here, but the more geographically challenging it is to get matches the more unrealistic some of us can be at first. Then reality sets in and it becomes clearly apparent that awareness of a profile does not grant you physical access to the person in that profile. We may only meet those who we really can meet.

Admittedly, the travel restrictions brought about by the pandemic made that point crystal clear. And we have to face the fact that these restrictions won't disappear anytime soon. What's important now is staying alive in the pandemic years ahead.

Very well worded! I couldn’t agree more to what you said, but that’s the sad reality of the world we live in. We just have to adapt and accept it. I personally long lost the thrill and excitement after countless disappointments. Just try to focus your attention and happiness on other things in life.

Agreed, especially on the last point. We're better off channeling much of our energy elsewhere.

Very fair point, I'm glad you took the time to share this, it's also why it benefits a person to have more than one interest, it keeps things in your life fun and keeps you seeking. Definitely important to separate the wants and needs in your life.

True. It's safe to say that we had our own share of interests before we got interested in having a match from this site. We can consider re-exploring those interests again. And true, it's important for us to separate the wants and needs, especially in the current era where we have to give up some of our wants in order to survive.

Tienes razón. Aunque yo llevo muchos años interesado en todo esto y tampoco es que me haya ido muy bien, ser novato no creo que sea importante para conseguir luchar. Creo que es más cuestión de intereses, ubicación y como bien dices "de gustos físicos".
Yo por mis últimas experiencias llevo un tiempo cuestionando mi posición dentro de este mundillo, supongo que las motivaciones e intereses van cambiando con el transcurso de la vida.

Un abrazo.

(Por favor, disculpen si la traducción es incorrecta).

Es cierto que las motivaciones y los intereses cambian a lo largo de la vida. Sólo tenemos que aprender a adaptarnos y ajustarnos a nuestras realidades.

Mis mejores deseos para ti también.

There are some thresholds that mark moments of growth; “you can’t always get what you wan’t” is one of them. “There is never enough time” and “It’s not all about you/me” are some others. The sooner we take these lessons to heart, the easier we are on ourselves and others. We get reminders when we forget (and we all do)! One of the many things I love about martial arts and wrestling is the mat/dojo/practice space is a lab where we also get to practice (and be reminded of) these lessons. When the match/session is over, those lessons can stick with us in our daily lives.

Admittedly, I never had any extensive training in martial arts, so I can't tell for sure how those lessons actually manifest in the practice area. But I think some related lessons that fighters need to deal with are the ideas of "Never quit" and "Know when to quit". It seems that many tend to emphasize the former when the latter is still something to keep in mind.

In some way, quitting can be a sign of growth.

Even wrestling is a 'want' , not a 'need', I will take whatever it takes to have a match. Because life is too short, I don't want to live in a regret that I didn't take a chance to do what I love

If you have the means and the resources to do that, then that's fine. What's important is that you are grounded on your own realities and in life, which will greatly differ from person to person.

We can either try to do something to avoid the regret, or just learn to accept regret in life.

Yes. Thats your choice bud